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Monday, February 29, 2016

No sex please, we're Japanese..!!


This article present an examples of the serious effort carried out by corporate to influence the public; of-course in addition to autopsying it.. On the other hand there are other examples of how a government would address the critical demographical matters, and how to plan and administer the balance to achieve the nations's welfare..


In late February 2016, Japan's census bureau announced that the country's population has experienced a net decline, with more people dying than being born, for the first time since the state started keeping these records in 1920.
The news of comes amidst regular news reports in Western media that Japanese people are having less sex than ever before. Some Western writers are even asking why young people in Japan stopped having sex.
How much sex are Japanese people having, anyway, and could having more sex help Japan improve its declining birth rate?

Japan's Population Is Officially in Decline

First, let's consider Japan's population decline. Over the past five years (Japan conducts full census surveys once a decade, with a partial count after five years), Japan's population shrank by nearly 950,000 people (by 0.7 percent) to 127.1 million people. Nearly a third of all Japanese were over 65 years old in 2015. By 2050, almost 40 percent will be older than 65.
To make matters worse for the future of Japan's population, the country's fertility rate has been about 1.41 births per woman, putting it well below the “population replacement rate” of about 2.1 (the average number of children born per woman to replace the population for nearly forty years since the 1970s).
The census bureau's announcement this month of a net decline in Japan's population, then, has been foreseen for quite a while.
Japan is not the only country in the world experiencing this phenomenon. In Germany, fertility has remained below 1.5 children per woman since 1975, while the World Bank notes that the East Asia and Pacific region is aging faster than any other region. In other words, the nation's “graying” is a global challenge that's not unique to Japan.
The Abe government aims to “stabilize” Japan's population at 100 million by encouraging women (somehow) to have more children and improve Japan's population rate.
The main problem (says conventional wisdom, at any rate) is that Japanese people are no longer interested in having sex.

Japan's “Celibacy Syndrome”: Real or Imagined by the Foreign Media?

Rather than comparing it with its peers like Germany, Japan's population is often connected to the perception that Japanese people just aren't having sex. There apparently seems to be a name for this phenomenon in Japan: the “celibacy syndrome” (セックスしない症候群). Interestingly, the Wikipedia entry for this phrase quotes a 2013 Guardian article as the primary source for the term.
A Japanese-language article about “celibacy syndrome” begins by referencing a 2013 BBC documentary called “No Sex, Please, We're Japanese.” Most of the search resultsfor “セックスしない症候群” seem to have appeared around 2013, and articles by foreign-owned media properties such as Huffington Post and China's People's Daily Online are at the top of the Japanese-language results.

2006/07 Durex Survey Still Influential

The idea may have originated with the gold-standard for sex research, the Sexual Wellbeing Global Survey. Conducted by condom-maker Durex in 2006 and 2007, this poll from nearly a decade ago interviewed 26,000 people, aged 16 and older, across 26 countries about their sexual habits.
Despite being almost 10 years old, the results of the Durex survey continue to be recycled year after year by both Western and Japanese media.
For example, in a 2014 article in the online edition of magazine Toyo Kezai, Sechiyama Kaku, a professor at University of Tokyo, cites the 2006/07 Durex study to argue that “Japan has the lowest sexual frequency in the world.” (In the Durex study, Japanese respondents reported having sexual intercourse 45 times a year, the lowest number among all the 41 countries surveyed.)
That said, a little-known, more recent Japanese report seems to confirm Durex's conclusions about Japan's national libido. As a matter of fact, Sagami, a leading condom company in Japan, conducted its own survey on sex in Japan in 2013. BloggerYuta Aoki summarized the results of the Sagami survey here in English. Aoki notes that the more recent Sagami survey seems to confirm Durex's conclusion: Japanese people report not having a lot of sex.

Japan's “Sexless Marriages”

Aoki notes that Sagami's survey indicates that people in relationships in Japan (Durex surveyed anyone sexually active) may be having sex far less than 45 times per year. A 2006 survey by Bayer found that Japanese married couples had sex just 17 a year, on average.
On top of that, the Sagami study found that 55.2 percent of married couples consider themselves to be sexless. “Sexless marriage” has become a hot topic in Japan in recent years.
In a survey of its own, the Japan Family Planning Association found that most married men were too busy or tired from work to have sex. Japanese women reported that sex was “too bothersome.”
However, the interesting thing about Sagami's study, Aoki reports, is that, generally speaking, people in Japan have no aversion to sex: 83 percent of single men and 58 percent of single women in their 20s and 30s say they want to have sex.
While there may be a variety of reasons why some people in Japan are going without sex, an aversion to intercourse doesn't appear to be one of them.

Japanese Men May Be Having Sex, Just Not Always With Their Partners

It's important to note that, in the context of the Sagami survey, people in couples who reported being part of a “sexless marriage” were simply reporting on whether or not they were having sex with their partners.
What goes almost universally unreported is extramarital sex, and sex for money.
According to various surveys, between 10 and 20 percent of Japanese men admit to extramarital sex (不倫, furin) with women at about half that number. So, even if many Japanese people are in sexless marriages, it's not always accurate to say they're having no sex.
On top of that, many married men in Japan also avail themselves of the country's US$5 billion (5兆6,884億 円) sex trade. Indeed, a significant minority of married heterosexual men in Japan are choosing to pay for sex.

A Significant Minority of Japanese Men May Be Paying for Sex

According to Japan's National Police Agency (NPA), as of 2011 there were more than 29,000 businesses connected to the sex industry (性風俗関連特殊営業,seifuzokukanrentokushueigyo)—10,000 more businesses than four years earlier in 2007.
Japan's sex trade consists of a variety of establishments and enterprises, including brothels (“soaplands”), massage parlors, escort agencies, and “paid” dating services.
In one poll conducted by MiW (a community devoted to providing support and advice to those whose spouses had engaged in extramarital sex), 23 percent of married men surveyed in Tokyo said they had paid for sex.
So, while Japan's “celibacy syndrome” may exist, it may only be between heterosexual couples in long-term relationships.

Where Does This Leave Japan's Declining Birth Rate?

Thanks to a new policy by the Abe government, women in Japan are being put in a double—or even triple—bind: Japanese women are being encouraged to have more children in order to increase the country's fertility rate and slow population decline. At the same time, Japanese women are being encouraged to “lean in” and participate more in the workforce. However, women will still be expected to be responsible for childcare, while looking after ageing relatives.
So, even if more sex means a higher birth rate, for Japanese women it could mean just more work, and even less free time than they have now.

Daughter’s Selfie Goes Viral in the Arab World


The young woman who is reportedly from Algeria initially posted the photo on Facebook which shows her father wearing his garbage collector’s uniform. Along with the photo she wrote: “I am proud of my father who raised me, nurtured me and taught me”
Many children would be ashamed to tell others that their father works as a garbage collector, a job which is unfortunately seen as lowly by many communities around the world. This proud daughter shows that children should be proud of their fathers no matter what their job is (as long as they are earning a Halal income). Children should appreciate their parents who work hard to provide for their family and to give a good upbringing for their children.
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This Sudanese graduate feels greatly proud of her mother who used to make and sell the local bread.. Despite the awful girly attitudes of some of her colleagues, she post her own Sonata of love and appreciation to her mother..

أمي أنا 
😍😍
{ ست الكسرة التي أعشها }

فى مسلسل جديد تركي اسمه ما وراء الشمس 
اول امس حضرت حلقة
المهم فيه طالبة ثانوي بتخجل من امها جدا
عارفين ليه ؟؟
عشان بتشتغل { عاملة نظافة } وقت أصحابها بسالوها أمك شغالة شنو ؟؟
بتقول ليهم عندها شركة سيدة أعمال وكدا
ولمساوئ الصدف بالنسبة ليها أمها شغالة فى نغس المدرسة البتدرس فيها
ووقت الطالبة دي بتكون براها فى الصف أمها أحيانا بتجي عشان تطمن عليها
فالبت بترتبك شدبيييد وتقول ليها امرقى بسرعة قبال يجي واحد من أصحابي ويشوفك
اﻷم بقلبها الكبير وحبها لبتها بتمش عشان ما تحرجا قدام زملائها فى الدراسة
أنا حقيقة مع إنى عارفاه ثمثيل بس للحظة قلت بس يفكونى عليها 
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 (عشان أمعطا من شعرا دا وأدقها دق السواد)
💪👊
ع قدر ما غايظانى 
😩
أنا حكيت القصة دي لشنو ؟؟
ﻷنه بالجد فى مجتمعنا السوداني الكلام دا حاصل حقيقة
ليه إحنا بنخجل من أبهاتنا وأمهاتنا مهما كان وضعهم اﻹجتماعي أو مستواهم التعليمى ؟؟
حابة أحكي ليكم حكايتنا مع أمي باختصار
إحنا من قمنا وفتحنا عيونا ووصلنا مرحلة اﻷعدادي فى الدراسة 
عرفنا يعنى شنو { أم ما متعلمة وفى بلد غربة } وبتكافح بس عشان أولادها يتعلمو يثقفو ياكلو يلبسو
ويبقو أحسن ناس وما نحتاج ﻷي زول يساعدنا
فى مواقف كثييييرة حصلت معايا
بس فى كل موقف كنت بشوف أمي دي ماااااف زولة زيها
وحدة من المواقف المريت بيها 
زولة صحبتى كانت واقفة مع بنات صحباتها
وقت مشيت أسلم عليها
البنات سألوها دي منو ؟؟
ما قالت ليهن إسمها كذا
قالت ليهن دي أمها مكة البتبيع فى الكسرة 
موقف تانى
بعد اتخرجت من الجامعة واشتغلت
اشتريت سيارة وقروش السيارة دي 
من { عواسة الكسرة } .. واحنا وقتها كنا بنشتغل برة البيت 
وبنشتغل جوة البيت شغل الكسرة وبنوزعا ع المطاعم والمدارس 
إضافة للناس الكانت بتصلنا بيتنا عشان يستلمو طلبياتهم
يوم صادفت أمي فى الطريق كانت شايلة برتال فيه كسرة
و أنا كنت سايقة
ومعاى صحباتى ليبيات
أمي شافتنى بس عملت رايحة
بقيت بضرب ليها بورى مرة واثنين وأكثر بس ما اتلفتت
حصلتها ووقفت السيارة
قلت ليها ما شايفانى ؟؟
ماشة وين ؟؟ اركبى اوصلك ؟؟
قالت لى معاك صحباتك وما عاوزاهم يشوفونى بالكسرة
ياخ يومتا بكتنى بكاء
ياخ طز فى الناس البتعاين ليك بالعين البايزة وأي صحبة ما شايفا أنا فخورة بيك قدر شنو
ما بتلزمنى فى حياتى
وأثناء أنا بتكلم معاها صحباتى نزلو من السيارة سلمو عليها وباسوها وركبت معايا وصلتها مشوارها حتى مشينا مشوارنا
ياخ بالجد كل اﻷمهات ماف زيهن والله
وهن نعمة كبيييييرة من ربنا 
فأنا قدر ما أحكي ليكن عن أمي والله ما بوفيها حقها علينا
ولو ما هي أصلووو ما كنا احنا
أنا حابة كل مرة أحكي ليكم عن تجربتنا فى الحياة
لو حابين تسمعونى وأمكن تستفيدو 
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وإنه احنا من العدم بقينا خريجين جامعات
وقدرنا نشق حياتنا فى العلم والعمل
وقدرنا نعتمد ع نفسنا
وانه حتى فى الظروف العصية المرينا بيها أيام أحداث ليبيا وبعد اﻷحداث
كنا واقفين أصلو ما وقعنا
والقوة دي استمديناها من أمي 
ست الكسرة التى أعشها 
وأقول دااااايما
يا إنتي يا أغرق 

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This week, aside from political issues posted all over Face-book, another hit story can be seen in the news feed. It is a photo of a graduate student next to a poor farmer. Actually, they are father and son. There are more than 100,000 likes, comments and shares by Cambodians and foreigners alike.
Singha Panno Loch comments, “Unlike a lot of these spoiled kids who don’t know what their parents are going through every day, you are the MAN!”
Kingsley Ebenezer, whose comments were received by more 4,000 likes, says: “I pray for you and your father. May the LORD give you a good job so that you take care of your father and may God keep your father alive to eat the fruit of his labour.”
Sweetest Picture ever and Useful Info, which helped share the picture also put a caption that reads: “A poor farmer supported his son to complete his graduation; My father is my biggest pride said the son. How many likes does this great father deserve?”
The parents are alive thanks to God who always supports us, encourages us and just want to see us have a better future. This picture really shows the true love between a father and the dearest son who is proud to present his grateful parents.

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A student of Chulalongkorn University in Bangkok, Thailand used to be ashamed of his father who is a garbage truck driver. He has now finally graduated, and posted ‪photos‬ of himself paying respects to his father on his Facebook page to thank the latter.


According to Bangkok Post on Facebook, here are some excerpts from Klanarong Srisakul's message: "When I was young, there were many occasions when I felt ashamed of my father. I asked myself why didn't he wear cool uniforms like my friends' fathers, who are soldiers and police...

"As I grew older, I knew that my father and I shared a dream. He had to quit school in the 4th grade and he told me that his dream was to see his son study. Back then, I wanted to be a soldier, but I flunked. I thought my father did not cry, but I later learned that he secretly cried. When the result of the university entry examination was announced, my father took a day off to check it. My father was holding back his tears. It was a proud moment for my small family.

"In my 4th year, my father asked me if I was ashamed to have him as a father, and that he had to be frugal. I was lost for words. "Now, I want to thank my father for being who he is and for his support in everything. Thank you for your tiredness, tears and unhappy moments together.

"Now, I want you to be happy with our success. You no longer have to feel ashamed, because you are my No.1 father. I'm proud of you."
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Gali Yalkarriwuy Gurruwiwi speaks limited English, mostly conversing in traditional language of the Galpu clan. He says he is proud, touching his heart in a moment of emotion, as his wife Jane Garrutju translates. 

“It was his dream, to dance with his granddaughters here,” she says. He has flown down from a remote out-station on Galiwin'ku [also known as Elcho Island], northeast of Arnhem Land, Australia. That’s about 3,000 kilometers away from Worawa Aboriginal College in Healesville, northeast of Melbourne, where his granddaughter Sasha has been boarding for the past two and a half years. This is her Year 10 graduation.
“I am proud of my grandchildren, Sasha and Alicia, I am proud that this college was taken care of and that they got a good education,” Gali says.  Gali is a Yolngu Mala leader, the Morning Star dancer. Despite feeling unwell on the morning of the ceremony, the elder, who does not know his exact age, insisted on following through with the special group performance involving two of his granddaughters. The traditional dance called Lunggurrma incorporates the feathered ceremonial Banumbirr [pole]. “When visitors come to Galiwin'ku my grandfather always dances, and all the grandchildren dance with him,” Sasha says. “I always love to dance with my grandparents.
”[So] this was a bit unique.“
Sasha has a strong connection to her culture — something that’s strengthened during her time at boarding school. “I love hunting, looking for oysters and fishing, and looking for mango worms, and dancing traditional, we call it bunggul, that’s what I miss, and telling stories around the campfire,” she says.
“I speak three Indigenous languages. Going to a boarding school like this, I learnt new Indigenous languages and [of] cultures from different communities as well.” The absence has been difficult for her family back home. But Jane says the family decided to send her granddaughter to Worawa because they wanted to give her a chance to be anything she wanted to be.   
“Culture, we value it like land and sea, and we are proud of it,” Jane says. “[Gali’s] very strong in teaching his grandchildren to cling on to their values, to be able to balance Western culture and our culture. They need to know who they are, where they come from.”
That was the aim of Worawa founder Hyllus Maris, who started the college in 1983 with the idea of educating young Indigenous people in a way that celebrates their culture and their past, and helps them have a bright future. Sasha says she walks proudly in both worlds. She plans to complete year 11 and 12 at Clontarf Aboriginal College in WA and dreams of becoming a nurse, working in her own community and in Melbourne.
“I would still love to practice culture and teach people my culture,” she says. “I also want to be a role model to younger girls and show them that they can do something with their lives and be happy.”
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These are not the only stories that were made public.. Just few of the famous ones..There are hundreds of thousands of untold heartbreaking stories..
within each achievement there are lots of tears, bloods and sweats..
There are the assets of our Humanity.. and Humility as well..
Can you observe the match and knit between both.. Can you?
If you can, you got it..!!
You are a Real..  You are a Human-being

Tuesday, February 16, 2016

مثل العنب



مثل العنب
يحوّلني يباس الفقد
إلى زبيب أسود
و من فرط الشوق
أنكمش في حلاوتي

مثل العنب
أتعتّق في خوابي
الماضي
و انتقاما لسنوات العزلة
أدوّخهم بكأس واحد



لطيفة بهيج




لم أنضج بعد أعرف ذلك من قبضة الحياة المؤلمة على كتفي تعيدني إلى الدروب السالكة بعد فوات الأوان لم أنضج تخونني البلاغة في ذروة الكلام يتلعثم اللسان تحبو الحروف عائدة إلى مهد الكلام لم أنضج أعرف ذلك من استحالة الجواب أمام غابة السؤال النامية في عراء الخيال لم أنضج بينما يذهب العالم كل يوم إلى الحرب أنبعث مثل قديسة من بين الركام أسقي بدمعي زهرة السلام لم أنضج أزهرت الشجرة احمرّ خد التفاح تنهدت العاشقات فاح عطر الغواية شهقت الكلمات على صدر القصيد لأني لم أنضج بعد لم تقطفني يد الحب